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07 Feb 07 Making Mommy Proud

I recently connected with a mom of a two-and-a-half year old boy with Down syndrome. She commented on how “together” I seem for a mom who’s only 6 months into my new, forever-changed life. It’s not the first time I’ve heard this and it made me wonder if maybe I’m dealing with all our changes a little too well and I’m in for a major meltdown.

I don’t think so. I’ll tell you why.

Firstly, thanks for the compliments, but I truly believe that had any of you found yourselves in the same position, you would have dealt with it the same way. We love our children unconditionally, no matter how they’re packaged.

Secondly, I’m beginning to recognize that I possess what my sister Teri calls the “McMahon denial gene”, which allows us to take what life throws us and simply deal with it. Healthy? I’m not sure, but it keeps me happy.

Today, Nicole pulled herself up with her abdominal muscles while sitting in the swing. A small feat for many, but a major achievement for a baby with low muscle tone. Of course, I’m proud of both my kids every day, but when I saw her do that, I felt a pride I didn’t know I’d ever feel.

Nicole’s allowed me to feel new depths of emotion I would never have felt if it wasn’t for her special needs. How amazing is that? I may be in denial, but I like it in here.

 



Reader's Comments

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    It’s kind of weird commenting on my own family blog, but this is such a great post from Karyn. We have been going through one of the most challenging and stressful periods in our family life – new baby, accepting life with Down syndrome, big new job in Manhattan, major move, life in a new city (“the city”), family and friends far away… you get my drift. It’s big. And Karyn has managed everything like a superstar. I am the luckiest guy around to have someone so strong keep it all together.

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    Hey Karyn –

    What a nice post. I don’t think you are in denial. Rather, I think you are practising “acceptance” (big difference).

    The ability to accept the events of our lives without judgement or resistance is so important to being happy people. And when we do that, we open ourselves up to the most amazing experiences and emotions.

    I’m so happy to hear that Nicole is doing so well and that the rest of the family are fitting into their new surroundings.

    All the best, ALLISON

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    Hi Karyn, David, Marley & Nicole. Well, you certainly know how to reach a Mother’s heart. I’m sitting here typing and crying at the same time. Tears of pride in such a truly wonderful daughter, a loving son-in-law and two darling granddaughters. What a perfect pair you & David are. i don’t know when I’ve been so proud. Thanks for sharing your feelings with us. You make the world worth saving.

    With all our love to all of you. Mom & Dad – Gramma & Grampa. Love your new pictures

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    Your beautiful and heartfelt expression leaves us speechless and deeply moved. We are so proud and happy that you can put into words, and share with all those who follow your blog, what you feel so deeply inside.
    We love you all,
    Nana and Bobo

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    Wow – what an uplifting entry to come across in my travels of blogland on this very snowy day. Karyn, it’s really no surprise that you and Dave have handled yourselves so gracefully through all of the news and changes you’ve faced in the last 12 months. You are a perfect pair and you are especially amazing at managing what life brings your way. It’s so reassuring to hear that you like where you are – I’m happy for you; and inspired. T

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    Eventhough I coined the phrase “McMahon denial gene,” I’ve come to learn that it’s not as black and white as it sounds. As Allison says, it’s about “acceptance” and focussing on the positive while somewhat denying the negative. You guys have so much love in your house that will take you a very long way. Marley and Nicole are lucky little girls to have chosen you as parents. We love you and miss you all.

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    Oh yah Karyn, a meltdown is a great thing too. Don’t deny yourself that outlet. I know you don’t really have time for one now…….but maybe one day.
    Ter

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    Hi there! I just stumbled upon your web page, as I am doing more research on DS. I too am a mother of a little girl who is now 15 months old with DS. I have 2 other children as well! I want to tell you that you are doing an amazing job! I read your page, and I couldn’t help but smile, and wanted to thank you for posting up info. It gives SO many people a glimpse into life with a little one with DS. Your little ones are just beautiful! I understand how an everyday mom can take little things for granted, such as a baby lifting her head or rolling from side to side. When you have a child with a disability (like us both w/our children who have DS), you tend to be proud of every achievement, no matter how big or small. My daughter, Riley just began crawling 2 weeks ago, and still has no teeth yet! :0) LOL! It’s just amazing to watch her play with her two older brothers! She likes to get in the thick of everything! Anway, keep up the great work with your little ones! You are an amazing mom!

    R. Miller :0)
    Mom of Riley J, Alex, and Zach

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    Hello!

    I’m always amazed at how thoughtful your posts are Karyn and Dave! I’m also impressed at how eloquent and lovely the comments to all the posts are as well :)

    I was a little intimidated about posting a comment after all the heartfelt messages that everybody posted, but I can sense a happiness from the Bradfields that shows through in this blog :) … and I wanted to tell you that.

    Miss you Karyn!

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    Karyn – what a beautiful post. We miss that writing skill here at work! But I think fate had other plans for you. Judging by how others are ‘stumbling’ upon your posts, I would think that you have a whole other career laid out for you…perhaps writing a book about your experiences ?
    Miss you tons.
    Love Meghan



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